There’s a strange kind of fog that rolls in after a breakup. Not just the obvious heartache or grief, but a deeper sense of disorientation — as if you’ve lost something more than just the relationship. For many of us, the hardest part of moving on isn’t letting go of the other person; it’s remembering who we were before the…
“It’s not my fault that I shine brighter than you, but for the sake of our relationship, I will try to shine less.” Later, I finally understood that not only did my partner NEVER appreciate my efforts to support him by stroking his ego and sacrificing mine, he also felt more pitiful because my self-sacrifice only made him see…
Why is it dangerous to say “we will never break up”? Here is a lesson in relationship realism that I learned the hard way. Early love is beautiful and those currently in its throes can feel invincible and certain about their future as a couple. It’s not uncommon for couples deeply in love to make grand declarations like “we will…
You know, I used to believe that finding the perfect match was the ultimate secret to a successful relationship. I clung to this idea for quite some time, and it probably contributed to my “player” persona back in the day. I’d assess compatibility based on various factors like shared interests, social status, and maturity levels. Yes, Criteria. Having some criteria…