In Love with Love: Falling In Love Signs
woobie on February 21st, 2008
People wonder sometimes why they fall in love only to get disillusioned. Like, problems start as soon as the ‘honeymoon phase’ of the new relationship is over. Frustration and exasperation are not what they signed up for, they say. And when asked what exactly they signed up for, they answer any or all of the following.
Falling in love signs?
Love. Romance. To be happy. Fun. Warmth. Companionship. Someone to hold forever. Being loved. Being accepted. Being.
The ‘in love with love’ mentality isn’t exactly a bad thing. Provided that the person doesn’t build the relationship solely around his concept of what’s ideal, the union could go places. The main hindrance to a potentially good relationship is always the expectation of something unrealistic.
Does romance play a big part in a long term relationship? Yes, absolutely. However, expecting romance to happen day in, day out… even on PMS days, bad hair days and times when friends come over to have a drink or so for hours while watching sports on tv… is not realistic. In the long run, romance and lovey-dovey moments become the big surprise that you look forward to, and not the constantly burning thing that people expect to happen daily in successful relationships.
The fights. Someone with love illusions set in stone could get turned off by fights. Love quarrels can be compared to the the earth shifting its structure every once in a while. The earthquakes and volcano eruptions that come with it are just signs that productive challenges await those who keep faith that in the end, everything will be in its rightful place.
Those who give up after the first onslaught of illusion-bombing miss out on the promises of a lasting relationship. They travel the world following the pixie dust that just doesn’t settle. Being slapped by the reality of compromises and broken promises of forever can be too much to some… but as the old cliche goes, “what doesn’t kill you makes you tougher”… and hopefully, a bit wiser. If you turn cynical, so be it. At least, you have had experiences that justify your jaded opinions.
My resources for giving out constructive advice on love, sex, dating and relationships:
- The Art of Seduction
- Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl-A Woman’s Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship
- He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys (The Newly Expanded Edition)
- If I’m So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single?: Ten Strategies That Will Change Your Love Life Forever
- Understanding Women: The Definitive Guide to Meeting, Dating and Dumping, if Necessary
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you have really nice posts here, saw your post on EDSA, and as a Filipino, I got a twitch of pride seeing that other people know about it… :)
anyway, thanks for dropping by my site, hope you come back every once in a while to see my new posts… thanks again!
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@dailytech
Im sure they read your comment and are going there already. :-)
@brazenlass
thanks sis! im coming over right now.
i guess one tool we need is to do our relatiosnhip assessment test with our partners. there are bunch of stuff that needs to be discussed that would be an issue along the way. like the practical side; career, time, money, etc.
but you are absolutely right. these things, all these things can be compromised. but compromises only makes us stronger as a couple, it shows that we are “evolving” in our relationships.
well, it’s post valentine’s.. kudos to all who makes their relationship work for the better. believe me, it’s hard work too.
cheers!
Scientists call people who are in love with love, love junkies. They thend to jump from relationship to relationship to find the perfect love they have on thier heads.
I just wonder what people who run away from love are called. Heheh. It’s what I do when I start falling.
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@Buraot
Getting a mediator (marriage counselor) can be expensive, but sometimes one is needed. Do you agree?
@Bendz
Those who run away from love when they start falling are called Chicken-Sh!t. :D
well, parang i don’t like to have a counselor sana at first, kasi the couple would be the best person/s to sort it out and decide.. pero kung medyo personal na talaga, it would be best to get one. para merong me sense of objectivity.
still, the best thing would be to maintain a level of respect for your partner. believe me, it works everytime. the truth is.. sometimes love fails.
but if there is friendship and mutual respect, it is easier to bring that “groove” back. ;)
excellent piece with some food for thought…I’m still learning about love and romance even at my age…:)
@robert
we all are still learning i think… no matter how old we get…
I love reading your words!
My husband is Mr. Cynical and I am Ms. Compromise - it works for us ;) Been married 22 years this May. Marriage is like a roller coaster ride with its ups and downs… sometimes they both make you scream with delight… and sometimes just scream :p
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well, when you first fall in love, it’s like being in probation. you are on your best behaviour. and you have an expectancy of how perfect your partner is. Of course once you get “confirmed” all will be revealed.
the key to lasting love for me is acceptance. and not trying hard to change your partner into someone they aren’t.
heck - I’ve been married for 9 years and known the same man for 12. there are times I wonder, why? and there are times - I’ll be thinking that I am so lucky.
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@lina
congratulations for having learned the secret sis! I hope to be going that path also… :D
@tripthelady
hello there! your comment got caught in spam, but I’m glad i caught it! Really 22 years? The compromise thing really workd for you huh? I hope to reach that with my partner too… :D