This is the Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan movie that started it all for me. Before this movie I didnt know how meeting someone online works… hell, i didnt know how email works. I did penpal things since I was 12 and did snail mail friendships with people from Europe, the US and South Korea… but this movie opened my eyes to friendships online.

Before the fear of stalkers, before the apprehension about pretenders, before I ever thought of putting myself out there and just meeting people, interacting… I watched this movie, and it got me where I’m most sensitive, my romantic bone.

Best Quotes from the Movie “You’ve Got Mail”

“I like to start my notes to you as if we’re already in the middle of a conversation.

I pretend that we’re the oldest and dearest friends– as opposed to what we actually are — people who don’t know each other’s names and met in a chat room where we both claimed we’d never been before.

‘What will NY152 say today’, I wonder. I turn on my computer, I wait impatiently as it boots up. I go online, and my breath catches in my chest until I hear three little words: You’ve got mail….

I hear nothing, not even a sound on the streets of New York, just the beat of my own heart. I have mail. From you…”

Meeting up after meeting online is a whole new adventure, but it has to start somewhere. Go find your adventure now, visit my dating sites page.

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It’s time for another AskWoobie feedback! As you read this post, you will see why this topic deserves its own page (and why I asked the feedback giver to let me publish her issue).

Tala (not her real name) wrote me this initially. The stuff in square brackets is mine:

“I am surprised you are not white. By the way you speak, I couldn’t tell. It is easy for you to get chats in rooms because they think you are not [Asian]?”

One of the more startling news to me since I published this romance blog is finding out some reasons why people do not want to try internet dating. Some simply do not want to fall in love online, while some others (like Tala ) fear that being unable to speak perfect English is a horrible liability.

Not true. The fact that you are from another country and that you probably live each day in a different way compared to them will get attention faster than the fact that you are a walking lexicon. It’s the willingness to interact that matters to people who are also there for that same reason.

If you find a gem of a chatmate, let your guard down, speak in a manner that you are comfortable with and focus on pushing your personality more than writing out all your sentences perfectly. Intelligible communication means being understood and conveying a message, even if it is not said in a Pulitzer-award-winning way.

Playing the “Exotic” Card

Once your online date notices that you speak in a peculiar manner, he or she will start getting curious about your country, the stuff that you can share about it, and travelling to your location. It’s a vast world, and not everyone will know about what’s uniquely Asian, African or Meditterranean (in my case, Filipino). They crave for information that is dished from a local. It is what will keep them rapt for a long time, maybe even forever.

When I find a wonderful chat companion, I instantly reveal that I am Filipina, In a sense, I am even helping out my country’s travel industry by talking about it and describing it to people I meet online. Being “exotic” isn’t a fault, and if you feel at ease about who you are and how you interact, you don’t have to get pressured by the fact that your English is “funny”.

Just the same as you won’t go under the knife for a nose job if you feel comfortable with your nose, you don’t have to speak “perfect” English to express yourself when you feel comfortable talking the way you do.

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I think I am…
I am fading away to rage and bitterness…
The demon has been unleashed,
And women have nothing to blame for it
but themselves.
Muhahahahhahahahaha…”
-Linc, thirty-something years old bachelor, on his love life’s status. Click the link and find out what a great guy he is. Picky, but a great guy, nonetheless. Happy Birthday, Mr. Leo Guy.

:heh:

A study on the occurrence of Alzheimer’s disease among single and dating middle-aged individuals showed that the latter have less tendency of developing the disorder than the former. I, however, have always questioned the subjectivity of sanity or what is normal. The world could be crazy and you could be the only sane person in it, and not the other way around, right?

I once wrote a post about Panic Mode at Late 20s. Your twenty-something years are probably the best times to start thinking about life and what else it could offer in terms of lasting happiness. Most people get married or have moved in with their partners at 27-35 years of age. And, while the singlehood stage called “soul searching phase” is all comfy and nice, one needs to rouse one’s self to the fact that time (and the good ones) won’t wait for a 10-year decision to start dating for real.

For those who want to take the leap of faith and brave the sometimes murky waters of the online dating world, here is the link to my dating page. After all, your soulmate won’t find you if you don’t start looking for her or him first.
:)

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A friend pointed me to this Personality Quiz, and it was bothering me (as I mentioned in the previous post) because I know I just have to post it on my blog. I am a bit hesitant because it is so amazingly accurate! Talk about wearing your heart on your sleeve. Come to think of it, the gentle me must be the one taking the test, and the results even mentioned my evil twin. :gg:

Here’s the link to the test. Have Fun!

Shmolorful, but unpicked. You are The Wild Rose.

Prone to bouts of cynicism, sarcasm, and thorns, you excite a certain kind of man. Hoping to gather you up, he flirts and winks and asks you out, ultimately professing his love. Then you make him bleed. Why? Because you’re the rare, independent, self-sufficient kind of woman who does want love, but not from a weakling.

You don’t seem to take yourself too seriously, and that’s refreshing. You aren’t uptight; you don’t over-plan. Romance-wise, sex isn’t a top priority–a true relationship would be preferable. For your age, you haven’t had a lot of bonafide love experience, though, and this kind of gets to core of the issue. You’re very selective.

The problem is them, not you, right? You have lofty standards that few measure up to. You’re out there all right, but not to be picked up by just anyone.

Your exact female opposite:
The Dirty Little Secret

Always Avoid: The Bachelor (DGSM)

Consider: The Vapor Trail (RBLM)

Link: The Online Dating Persona Test | OkCupid - dating services | Dating
My profile name: : evilwoobie

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