I have a Love-Hate relationship with time.

For a period, time was a friend, an ally that helped me get over something I’d rather forget, like a relationship given up for the sake of growth or some other BS reason. ‘Time heals all wounds’ is an old cliche that I tell people looking for advice on how to get over their broken relationships.

It’s like every day, we wake up and start anew. It takes more and more effort to remember the things that pushed us to almost give up on life a few days ago. Sleep erases the more destructive things from our minds when we succumb to it, like our spirit’s built-in defense against self-destruction. This is related to my theory of sleeplessness during depression. It’s as if we know that when we sleep, we will forget the more salient stuff about why we’re depressed. For some perverted reason, people need to fuel their anger, which will miraculously disappear if we take care of ourselves a little more.

Time became the enemy for me when I let myself be eaten up by lethargy. I was in a dead-end job that paid me less than the price of peanuts for everything I put out, but I didn’t mind because I was too afraid to venture out. In the process, I let time lull me into a fake sense of comfort, not knowing that the more I let my talent die, the more I lost the urge to cultivate it. And before I knew it, I became an aging geek in denial who realized too late that a rut job is no better than a rut relationship; it sucks up your energy ’til you don’t have any left for anything else.

This diatribe of sorts was influenced in part by an advertiser’s request to choose a watch from their Tag Heuer line and share it with my readers. I chose this pink beauty.

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In a previous post I talked about how to plan a Grand EyeBall for those looking to gather a bunch of people they met online to interact in a real life setting. Today, I’m going to talk about what exactly happens in EyeBalls (EBs), what to expect and what not to expect.

If you’ve been chatting for a while and joining a few or all of the free dating sites available in the web, you must know about online personalities. These are the “people” we project online, and while we are still who we are, our online personalities may not be understood or looked upon as accurately as we think, compared to our offline ones.

I am an advocate of the Keepin’-It-Real way of presenting my online personality, so that those who are avid readers of my blog will find that they can talk to me offline in the same way as they do here in this blog’s comment section. Why do I prefer this approach when I have been warned time and time again that while I may be sticking to the ‘real-me’ principle, others may not be?

This is because of one fact and one fact alone: I may have connected with these friends only over the internet, but I will do everything in my power to meet them in real life someday. And, when that happens, I don’t want them to feel cheated of the time they spent talking to a fake online personality.

Aherm. Now, let’s talk about The EB.

What to expect during a one-on-one EB, or what we call “The First Real Date”

• The other person may not be as talkative in real life as in chat. Some of us are more eloquent online, and for good reason. How else are we supposed to interact online, if we don’t type words on our keyboards? ‘Shyness’ online is tantamount to never chatting with anyone. I have observed in the past that the most gregarious people over the net are the most quiet offline. These people are more comfortable typing than actually talking, and you should adjust to that if you want a successful offline date.

• There could be SEX, particularly if you have been having cybersex or been behaving like a real couple, albeit online. For those who don’t know, cybersex is just a techie-fied version of ‘pleasuring one’s self while fantasizing about the other person’. It’s usually done through erotic language and/or naughty use of the webcam. Still think letting your minor roam the net is a good idea?

• Photos may not be accurate. While we’d like to believe that photographs reflect the truth, there are certain computer softwares created just to beautify photos that are normally bland. But at the same time, I do believe that beauty is always based on personality. The best thing about internet dating is you meet the personality first (provided you both believe in keeping everything real). One girl once told me “but he seemed so handsome online” and I gave her a bristling wake up call. If you judge a book by its cover, an online relationship (or any relationship at that) might not be for you.

• The flame could burn out. This isn’t unusual. The way you connected over the net may have been real, but after you meet offline, there’s that possibility of never thinking of each other romantically again. Why does this happen? Online interaction is basically just friendship, and going beyond that means you want something more than just friendship. Chemistry could happen or it could not, and there’s no assurance that clicking so well online will lead to a fruitful relationship.

Nonetheless, we can keep on chatting, searching and hoping that we will find the ‘one’ through this never never land called The Internet. After all, love does grow in the weirdest places.

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In my quest to find advertisers who can offer my readers a completely Free Dating Service, I found Meeta.com. Interaction and community building are free. While connecting online is free, they do offer other things, and these include opportunities for members to attend events in real life settings. That they don’t allow certain countries to participate in their community is understandable, as they want to target people who live near their existing members, for eyeball (EB)-related reasons.

EyeBall (EB) is a term coined to describe two or more people meeting offline for the first time, following a period of chatting online. The mere mention of this word takes me back to the time when I attended several EBs in a week. In fact, some of the best dating memories I will keep with me forever are from EBs.

While it is the prerogative of any chatting couple or groups to have their EB any time, a Grand EB is a completely different thing. It’s a massive event that needs proper planning, a lot of sponsors and several weeks of preparation.

Here’s a simple guide I prepared to help you organize your own Grand EB with minimum hassle.

Finding sponsors. The key to choosing who to approach to fund your event is knowing the demographics of your online community members, i.e. common factors such as age, ethnicity, interests and hobbies etc. The questions to ask yourself before writing a sponsorship request, include:

• Does this company offer a product that my members will like?
• Will this company benefit in the long run after this initial introduction to my group?
• Does this company NEED more publicity? Do they have a new product that they are launching soon?
• Does this company have a history of event sponsorship? Are they open to partnership requests?

Let me illustrate the next steps with an example.

• I am throwing a party for my community in a particular dating site. I know that my members have established certain relationships with each other, and are looking to explore new levels of connection e.g. real dates. The venue will be a spacious function room in a cozy hotel where singles can either dance or simply sit around to talk. To be partly sponsored by the hotel itself (one that could offer accommodations at a discount to my members).

• I will then look for a good artist who will provide romantic ambiance through music. My choice is a violinist (like my friend Diwa) because of the soulful sound of any music created using a violin. He can meet potential clients within my group, couples who may get married someday, or men who may need music to properly propose to a girl they met in the party.

• Food will be sponsored in part by an independent caterer who specializes in date food, innovative finger food, like hors d’oeuvres, that doesn’t take much effort to eat while talking to another person.

• And, because I know that some members have already broken the friendship barrier and are already dating online, it is highly advisable that I partner with a company specializing in safe sex products like condoms. This is particularly applicable in Sex EB’s (to be discussed in another post, so you’d better subscribe *wink*)

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Here are my favorite Tattoo brands ever: Sun Signs! I personally prefer the more aggressive ones, such as those of a Scorpio and Aries, but the tamer looking ones, like Libra, are so cool too! Browse through these and choose your favorites!

The Ram is the symbol of Aries, the pack leader and the promoter of any organization. He is steadfast and dependable, energetic and strong. This tattoo signifies his greatness (and initiative to be the leader at all times).

This is Taurus, The Bull. No less unmovable than Aries when he makes a stand but will set aside everything for his loved ones. He is clannish and endearing, and mostly tame as long as you don’t wave the red flag.

Gemini is the most complex sign, if you don’t know where to look for vulnerability in his personality. He binds you in words and mischief, he jokes with you til your quest to find ‘the real him’ is completely diverted

Cancer is the sensitive Zodiac personality and that trait is particularly symbolized in this tattoo… The complexity is gently hidden and shows up only in moods, while a gentle wave comes out every once in a while to tickle you.

Leo is majestic and proud, and this tattoo’s representation does him justice. He is a simple guy with simple wants… EVERYTHING. Bigger than big, grander than grand… he doesn’t mince on his dreams and his efforts to take the world by the balls.

Virgo is sensitive too, only if it’s practical to be sensitive. He won’t sacrifice pragmatic reasoning just because he’s feeling emotional. He will do what needs to be done and then deal with the emotional issues after. He’s the perfect employee, but watch him run out when the party gets too lewd for his taste.

Libra’s balance is accurately shown in this tattoo. That he weighs things for benefits and disadvantages can be annoying, but someone’s got to do it, and they’re good at presenting both sides of a coin.

Scorpio wields magnetic power over everyone who dares to come close enough to feel his sting. His innocent face can go from soft to granite in seconds, while you are left in the dust wanting him all the more.

Sagittarius will never let you rest… laughing. They seem like the busiest people with so many stuff to do during the day, and then you realize that they spent just about a few hours just kidding around with you.
They will make the best promises and wait ’til you follow their lead before dropping hints that they weren’t going anywhere after all.

Capricorn tattoo expresses the same discipline that a person born under this sign practices on a daily basis. Every nuance is carefully implemented and each has a purpose. What results is a balance between social and home life, and between personal and business.

Aquarius! This is my favorite of favorites among the zodiac tattoos! The two figures represent water pouring from the proverbial Aquarius maiden’s jar, indicating temperament, tolerance and moderation. They do look like powerful waves, but at the same time, they seem like giant scythes to me. Maybe it’s just me. Such a strong representation for one of the tamest signs of the zodiac.

Pisces. This tattoo represents Pisces accurately, as do other figures like the fishes going in separate directions. There’s a conflict going on inside every Pisces. A conflict that only he or she can explain. It has a lot to do with his belief of the ideal and the cynical truth that he is so sensitive to. The best part of this sign is its ability to take the opposing factors and manipulate them towards getting his goals. He’s like a double agent, working both sides of the force to his advantage.

Many many thanks to tattoo fashion for the images. Although they use these symbols for henna tattoos, I’m sure they will look better if rendered in ink. :D

For More Information on Zodiac Personalities of Men and Women, Kindly Visit My Zodiac Sensing Pages

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