What’s With the Number Three?
The code among players around the world preaches about the number three as the closing number in any discussion on how many lovers a person had. Like, when some tactless friend or boyfriend gets nosy enough to rudely ask the question, a lady answers ‘three’ and that’s the end of it. It often goes hand in hand with the term ’safe answer’.
Whether or not it is accurate, the point is that the question itself is loaded and a mind game; and answering it will make him think, no matter what your answer is. To keep the peace, choose the safest answer.
But why? What’s behind this number three that gives it a seemingly universal power of warding off any form of judgment and further questions? Are there puzzle pieces that click into place when a person finds out that you dated only three people in total prior to your present relationship?
Let’s go on a theoretical tour of what goes on in a guy’s mind when a lady says she’s had only ‘three’ in her lifetime.
- So first was her high school puppy love who she’s now good friends with because he has recently embraced his gaydom. Second was her college sweetheart, who probably did not grow out of the good life as fast as she did. Third was the ‘ex’ she keeps talkin’ about. That’s the guy who she almost spent forever with, only he’s a jerk and so she left him for…. me, the real forever guy.
Maybe a guy won’t say it that way, but you see it? The number three gets justified according to the phases of a normal girl’s life when she was expected to have had at least one relationship. The number three makes her normal. The number three is the alpha and the omega of the “how-many” question. So, now that you know… how many lovers have you had?
My resources for giving out constructive advice on love, sex, dating and relationships:
- Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl-A Woman’s Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship
- He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys (The Newly Expanded Edition)
- If I’m So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single?: Ten Strategies That Will Change Your Love Life Forever
- Understanding Women: The Definitive Guide to Meeting, Dating and Dumping, if Necessary
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What’s the slutty version of 3?
witchypoo’s last blog post..Distractions
@witchy
slutty version? say “three serious relationships”, emphasis on the second word.
Three na din.
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woobie, you really are a genius.
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I think for partners who had more than three, that rule is not discussed or they don’t talk about their past at all. =)
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@Janette Toral
Wow, miss Janet, thanks for visiting! Yeah, I agree, the issue should be taboo in committed relationships and should be regarded as B.U. (”before us”). However, there are guys and girls who really have to ask eh?
As the cliche goes, what you don’t know won’t hurt. ^^
i remember watching from a movie that if a girl says a number (when you ask them that question), multiply it by 3 and you get the real answer :)
pag guys naman daw, divide by 3. it’s a serious case of sexist judgments. hehehe.
but what happens when your answer is less than that? does it make you less normal? :P
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@ris
yeah sexist!!! lol
@drclaire
more of ‘honest’ than normal, sis. :)
oo nga ba, what’s with number 3? I wrote about it din and dr.joy said maybe it’s based on the holy trinity.
my hubby is my third bf, but the only serious 1 got, coz the first 2 didnt last for even a month!hehe. so i consider him my one and only, and of course the last “real” bf.
nwei, i think, numbers shouldn’t really count. if you truly love a person, the numbers shouldn’t matter, more so his/her past.
Happy easter!
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Hello yall! I’m new to this blog, but I like it here!
Woobie, well done!
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Hello Kiss! You fit right in ! Welcome :D
Thanx, Woobie :)
It was a great idea to create a Tee-logo, I’ve got mine! It looks cute!
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