Guy Advice
woobie on December 1st, 2007The The Art of Seduction
Consider this scenario. A nice, well-meaning guy finally finds the opportunity to talk to the girl of his dreams at a college party. She’s idly standing by the buffet table alone and all he has to do is start a conversation with her. He slowly approaches her and for a second, their eyes meet. Suddenly, the girl’s eyes shift from his to a spot over his shoulder and she waves to her friends. He helplessly watches as she rushes past him to join the others by the pool. He then asks himself over and over, what went wrong?
Many guys are either too shy when around women or too scared to admit that they don’t know how to approach women. To complicate things, the pressure placed on these guys by their peers and society in general forces them to keep their problem to themselves for fear of ridicule. It’s a lot easier to declare that they choose not to get involved with girls, than admit their inability to get and maintain dates. The crippling inhibitions that these guys manifest when dating women will obviously result in an unending string of lousy dates and unreturned phone calls that could make a guy lose faith in himself completely.
Advice from girl pals, older sisters and even moms may not always be comprehensive because of one simple handicap… they’re not guys. As it is with women, there are certain very personal issues that men keep hidden; and these impose a limit to their emotional availability. These are unspoken feelings of being “at a loss” that only another guy will understand.
I recently discovered a dating site that points out the common mistakes that guys make in approaching women, and offers effective, life-changing techniques to reverse these mistakes. The Modern Man addresses the universal dilemma of eternally dateless guys, and those that are forever treated by girls as “best guy friend material”. Within a few minutes of browsing, I was amazed at how insightful the dating tips are. A few more pages later, I discovered why: the people coaching men on how to be the hottest that they can be are guys themselves!
Free audio samples of conversation starters are available and I was smiling the whole time I was listening to these. I kept thinking, “wow, these guys really know how women think huh… interesting…” and then I went on listening and laughing some more.
I could name a half a dozen guys who need to go to this site right now, but I won’t post their names here; I’ll just send these links to them later *smiles*.
So, if you feel that you are one of those who need to learn from the expertise of The Modern Man, then by all means, GO! Visit this site before your sister, your mom and your best girl buddy (who, by the way, never thought of you as a prospect with you being the way you are) shake you vigorously and scream “please get a clue!!!”
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We guys are often such schmucks when it comes to making real connections… with anyone! It’s nice to see a place offering real advice. I bet it’s applicable in lots of situations, aside from meeting potential dates, which is invaluable in itself
A lot of girls look for “shy” guys because they think these guys are easier to handle. Little do they know that the timidity doesn’t always come from shyness but from insecurity. It’s hell when the girl finds out (hell for the guy, because the girl will already think of the option of leaving him)….. Pump up the confidence, gentlemen!!!
Shy guys are really funny though. I like pressuring my friends who are shy into dates with girls. It usually turns up horrible but you can always try. ;)
Interesting entry
What do you do when there’s dead air and you can’t think of anything to say?
@jaywalker
From a woman’s vantage point, it’s really funny when he pauses after the initial niceties. Is he checking me out? Is he bored? Tongue tied? She’s observing how you will get out of that silence.
Nicer ones will break the silence for you but nastier girls will probably think of the “L” word more frequently as a guy struggles to say something and fails. I’m not talking about the L word that means “love”, but rather that word that describes someone who “doesn’t win in contests”. Get it? :D
There are very very rare occasions though that a girl might find a tongue-tied guy cute. Rare, but it happens.
you got an interesting site here, woobie. i’ll be refering my torpe friends here so they’ll know when not to be idiotic during a date. hehehe.
well…i got a friend didn’t even bother about gals..what a guy,all my housemate are “unavailable” except him..i tried to lecture him but doesn’t work..huhu..never seen him with gal..i pity him very much..huhu..
soul, maybe he’s gay?
anyhoo, by experience, women are better when it comes giving relationship and sexual advice. after all, they knew better. only them knows when they’re faking.. *wink*
@buraot
hi kuya i was wonderin when you’re going to comment on this post, like you’re actually resisting to comment on this or something. ^_^
hey hey kuya… i won’t agree with that…. SOME GUYS know when a woman is faking… REALLLYYYY….
Even if the girl gives a “best actress performance”… they know! They’re really scary huh, these guys.
hehehehe….
@ris
thanks! it’s really fun to know that people are viewing my advice stuff. :D
weheheh. d naman resisting.. kinakarir ko pa ksi yung mga tags, including yours. lols!
anyhoo, i think the best is to be straight and direct to the point. especially here, you know everybody is trying to hook up. like bruce willis style, “so what ya doin for sex tonight?” straight, right? well, of course, if you are bruce willis, you will always get to hear yes for an answer.
still, if you got a no answer, that means she is not interested, you still thank her for not wasting both of your time with all that “play”. take it like a man, and move on. if you have tried it with all the women in the room and still got nothin, go to the men’s room, look in the mirror and check yourself out. lols!
@Buraot
You seem like a “been-there-done-that” guy huh? *laughs*
I dunno, sometimes it’s not even the appearance. OMG I saw guys who look like turds but girls are all over them, even fighting over them.
it depends on a number of things, but your main focus whould be your “target”, you need to know what she prefers or what would wow her. confidence might turn some women on, but on others it would be a total bummer.
i saw Hitch and it was funny. like what i am trying to say here. not everything works for everybody. but something is definitely gonna work for somebody. *wink*
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Howdy, great article. I agree with what you say. Half of meeting women and kicking it off is actually getting the balls to.. well, meet them.
The best way for a girl to get a guy is, LET HIM KNOW!
I would gladly go out on a date with the girl who approaches me honestly with her real feelings, instead of me thinking of ways to seduce said girl.
Girls… guys are easier to woo than you think :)
oh i agree 100%! Nice one! :D
However, what if a girl doesn’t notice you but you want her to? Isn’t it better to just try your luck trying to win her over than just wait and see of she will look in your direction? :D
Hey Woobie, nice post. My advice to all the guys out there facing such problems is to please, please not let it transfer to their sons! The world can do with one less wussy man. I grew up shy but was lucky to have overcome it early. An older friend of mine shared a secret with me that I use till this day. He said, “did you know that women are shy too, and equally perturbed about that first meet?” So whats the simplest solution. Just be yourself and let women like you for those unique qualities that make you an individual. But if you’re not satisfied, gosh improve on yourself. After all that chic wasn’t born a bombshell now was she? Umm I think am talking too much.
@felix, good advice.
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